As first time parents we not only have no idea what we are getting ourselves into, we also have no supplies to help us take on this adventure. What do we register for? Furniture, changing pad, stroller, obvious. What about everything else? Do I really need to register for blankets and onesies? How intensely serious should I take reviews? It’s a mentally exhausting process. We spent maybe half an hour at a baby store checking out stroller quality and dimensions of bedroom furniture and honestly that is all the time I wanted to spent there. I didn’t want the pressure and overwhelm of a baby registry consultant guiding us item by item, I wanted to google what we might require and set down at my computer to research and register.
I read a handful of articles about what is useful and what isn’t, this one I certainly agree with. I also asked some friends and created a list of what I believed we would use, need, and not want or be able to get for ourselves. Some of the best advice I received?
- Don’t register for every last detail, blankets, toys, clothes, UNLESS you want something specific. For example, there is an adorable picture I have had my eye on for a year, so I added it to our registry. Plus, People will often get you the small stuff, like bibs, diapers, or outfits as gifts.
- Test drive the big things. This was more of a personal revelation. I had one specific stroller/travel set in mind, this is what I was going to register for and that’s that. However, once we went to the store and compared that stroller to a similar one, I immediately changed my mind. We registered for what we consider to be a higher quality, and ironically more cost effective, stroller.
- Do you really need it? I received recommendations about a co-sleeper aka bassinet from friends and was planning to get that very one. However, our nursery is right across from our bedroom, I would never bring the bassinet around the house or to another location, and I ultimately felt it was an unnecessary pricey item that our baby would outgrow in a few months anyway.
- Will it last? I plan to buy these “big items” one time, so getting something of quality is crucial. Not only will it ensure better safety for each child as the items are not manufactured cheaply, it will also help with the longevity. Also consider some gender neutral items, or at least don’t get everything in magenta if you plan on having future children as your possible future son will not appreciate such things. We are having a boy, but his teal stroller and gray diaper bag will work just as well for his possible future sister.
- Where are you registering? I opted to register at Babylist instead of individual stores. First of all, I wanted items from a number of places and I didn’t want to have a mile long list of “The couple is registered at…” Another perk, the site offers buying options. Maybe one item is cheaper on Amazon or at Target, Babylist will tell the buyer the cheapest place to purchase, while allowing that purchase to be attributed to your registry. And maybe my favorite thing? You get an email each time someone buys you an item. It’s like Christmas in your inbox every day.
All that said, any and all things baby related we are certainly learning as we go along. Next on the baby agenda? Registering at the hospital and getting the nursery deep cleaned and ready for the arrival of baby gifts!